We haven’t started our next project yet but we’ve been battling about it for the last few months. I’m nervous. I want to finish my house but not at the expense of my marriage. There is always squabbling and somethings downright fighting during a remodel but if we’re actually battling before we begin that is not a good thing.
Lewis wants to be proactive and plan ahead as much as possible so that we don’t incur major overrun costs as we have in the past but I just can’t deal with every little detail right now. He keeps pushing in a way that he hasn’t done before and I feel badgered and stressed. HE doesn’t usually stress me out but HE is now.
Is it worth is? We want to complete our house so we can “get on with our lives” but if we don’t have our marriage then we have nothing.
We had a heart to heart last night and he agreed to back off and let me do what I’m good at while he does what he’s good at. As long as we “keep our fingers out of each other’s pies” I think we’ll be ok. He’s amazingly good at construction, electrical and plumbing as he loves to figure out how things work. I have a passion for design and a love for visually stunning drama in a room, as long as it is not the emotional type!
On that note, my fabulous designer has said that if I don’t back off and let her take the lead with this project then she’s going to can me. She is incredibly talented and creative and I could never achieve what I want to without her so I’m going to have to shut my trap and let her make magic happen. We went tile shopping yesterday and the moment we walked in a stunning pattern caught my eye and within 10 minutes we had the entire bathroom tile chosen so she does let me do my thing too. I just need to let her do hers.
Not being in control is a tough nut for me to crack but I’m trying to look at it as a step towards freedom and less stress. I hope that Lewis is as well.
Battle scars are pretty worthless if you were able to walk away but didn’t learn from the experience so there should be no hidden surprises in this phase. The walls are already open in the room we’ll be working on and I’m told the plan will be solid so I can sit back and watch the magic happen. Unless if course we are not ready to move forward without interruption. Now how will I clear out the garage so that there is space to work?
I think that means that you will back off unless you don’t think that things are moving fast enough and you can’t do that Lewis. I will crack. Into a million pieces likely Humpty Dumpty and we will never be able to put me back together again.