Caitlin Kelly’s post on her blog “Broadside” titled “Saying Thank you” made me realize that I have been very lazy about that lately. I sent a note to my friend Margaret after she housed me for a night at her home in San Francisco but it was quickly written and sloppy and while I had intended to send a personally written card to everyone that has hosted us for dinner over the past kitchenless year I am ashamed to admit that I justified merely sending an email thanks with “everyone does it this way now” or “people will understand how busy I am”. Not.
I lost a friend once because I didn’t send a thank you note. Ok, so she wasn’t that great of a friend and I was close to a nervous breakdown due to my one hundred hour per week work schedule but still, I could have sent a card.
My eighteen year old niece asked me a couple months ago if I wanted a thank you note after I sent her an Amazon gift card. “Of course!” I never believed in gift cards or giving cash, that was forbidden in my house as a gift must be thoughtful and purposeful, but that practice has gone by the wayside as the nieces and nephews now prefer them. In return I receive handwritten and misspelled cards that melt my heart.
Karen J. Charlton mused on “People who don’t send birthday cards” on one of my favorite blogs The Rhythm Method whether it was acceptable to send birthday cards not even at all but late. I am guilty on that count as well.
A few years ago shortly after my birthday someone commented that they couldn’t believe how many cards I had received, proudly displayed on my living room coffee table. “Well, that’s because I send them” was my reply. Duh. Although if I ever sent one to the recipient on time they’d most likely fall over in shock at their mail box.
I don’t receive as many birthday cards as I used to but I haven’t sent as many either. Thanks to The Rhythm Method and Broadside that’s going to change. And if you invite us to dinner, I promise to send a card.
How do you justify bad behavior?