Control Freaks Let Go

December 6, 2015

From Janelle:

We haven’t started our next project yet but we’ve been battling about it for the last few months.  I’m nervous.  I want to finish my house but not at the expense of my marriage.  There is always squabbling and somethings downright fighting during a remodel but if we’re actually battling before we begin that is not a good thing.

Lewis wants to be proactive and plan ahead as much as possible so that we don’t incur major overrun costs as we have in the past but I just can’t deal with every little detail right now.  He keeps pushing in a way that he hasn’t done before and I feel badgered and stressed.  HE doesn’t usually stress me out but HE is now.

Is it worth is?  We want to complete our house so we can “get on with our lives” but if we don’t have our marriage then we have nothing.

We had a heart to heart last night and he agreed to back off and let me do what I’m good at while he does what he’s good at.  As long as we “keep our fingers out of each other’s pies” I think we’ll be ok.  He’s amazingly good at construction, electrical and plumbing as he loves to figure out how things work.  I have a passion for design and a love for visually stunning drama in a room, as long as it is not the emotional type!

On that note, my fabulous designer has said that if I don’t back off and let her take the lead with this project then she’s going to can me.  She is incredibly talented and creative and I could never achieve what I want to without her so I’m going to have to shut my trap and let her make magic happen.  We went tile shopping yesterday and the moment we walked in a stunning pattern caught my eye and within 10 minutes we had the entire bathroom tile chosen so she does let me do my thing too.  I just need to let her do hers.

Not being in control is a tough nut for me to crack but I’m trying to look at it as a step towards freedom and less stress.  I hope that Lewis is as well.

From Lewis:

Battle scars are pretty worthless if you were able to walk away but didn’t learn from the experience so there should be no hidden surprises in this phase.  The walls are already open in the room we’ll be working on and I’m told the plan will be solid so I can sit back and watch the magic happen.  Unless if course we are not ready to move forward without interruption. Now how will I clear out the garage so that there is space to work?

Note: Janelle is not in charge of the garage.

Note: Janelle is not in charge of the garage.

Note: Janelle is afraid to step foot into the garage.

Note: Janelle is afraid to step foot into the garage.

From Janelle:

I think that means that you will back off unless you don’t think that things are moving fast enough and you can’t do that Lewis.  I will crack.  Into a million pieces likely Humpty Dumpty and we will never be able to put me back together again.


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Ed Ruscha and the Standard Gas Station

August 16, 2014

Ed Ruscha, 60’s artist, and the Standard Gas Station

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“It has to be called an icon; that’s the main thing about that painting…It became a motif for me to explore in other ways, too. I saw it as a loaf of bread; I saw it as several other things.”—Ed Ruscha on the painting Standard Station, Amarillo, Texas (1963) in 1981.

In the early twentieth century, John D. Rockefeller’s Standard Oil was the largest company in the world, selling more than half the petroleum products in the United States. In 1911 the federal government broke it up into seven “Baby Standards,” one of largest of which was Standard Oil of Southern California. The reach of this Baby Standard stretched from the Pacific Ocean to Texas, and it retained the Standard brand name until 1984, when it officially became Chevron. In the late 1950s and early 1960s, when Ed Ruscha frequently drove Route 66 from Los Angeles to his family…

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Trading Up

March 2, 2014

From Janelle:

An email came through the other day that changed my life.  “Free couch.  In great shape but needs recovering.”  My co-worker was immediately informed that I’d happily take it off his hands and then reality set in.  How was I going to break it to Lewis?  He was going to kill me.  I sent him the photo and received  this response.  “Where are you going to put it?  It is UGLY!”

Where would it go?  The garage was stuffed with a late 70’s or early 80’s Kreiss rattan set listed on Ebay for way too much money but after 27 years I couldn’t part with it for a pittance.  The rattan was offered for a trade as a joke and the proposal immediately accepted.  That same day Lewis hooked up our motorcycle trailer and vintage rattan was traded for vintage Hollywood Regency.

The story is almost as fabulous as the couch itself:

Hi Janelle,

LOVE the rattan furniture…thank you!!  Was so happy you wanted the couch as I wanted it to go to someone that would love it as much as we have and the rattan furniture was such a happy surprise.

I just called my step mom to get more information on the “green couch” as it is affectionately known in our family.  The couch belonged to the grandmother of one of my mom’s friends and it was given to her when she moved out on her own at 18 and she in turn gave it to me when I moved into my first place in the early 90’s.  My mom recovered it in the green velvet at some point over the years and guessing the couch is at least from the 40’s if not older, given the construction, Hollywood Regency, channel back styling.  The kids were sad to see it go since it is the most comfortable seat in the house but we are glad it is going to be loved.


From Lewis:

Okay so the last thing I wanted was more stuff stored in the garage but trading 5 items for 1 seemed like a better deal and now there’s more room in the garage.  It’s not the prettiest couch but it will do and it does have some style.  It had better be good and comfortable.

Green Couch





The Things We Do For Love

February 14, 2014

From Janelle:

This is my long-standing opinion on skiing and I do it only as Lewis loves it so much.

1)      Layer as many clothes on as you can and still move.

2)      Cram your feet into the most uncomfortable, hard, shin bruising boots you could ever imagine.

3)      Push bruised shins hard against the plastic boot tongues so toes are not impaled into boot tips.

4)      Pile on headband, beanie, gator, goggles, and gloves.

5)      Be sure NO skin is exposed to air.

6)      Lug skis to lift walking like an astronaut in hard boots, shins throbbing.

7)      Hold on to hand railings at all times when presented as not to fall on ass while careful not to clobber anyone with skis on shoulder.

8)      Crab crawl to ski lift.

9)      Expose skin to air to cool off.

10)   Scramble onto lift and don’t fall.

11)   Sit calmly while lift stalls halfway up the mountain, wind howls and snow pelts against face.

12)   Re-cover all skin with now wet clothing.

13)   Exit lift without falling.

14)   Traverse down mountain in white out-condition, unable to see more than ten feet ahead, panting and nauseous from vertigo.

15)   Stumble into lodge for a drink to warm up.

16)   Try to figure out why your husband is smiling from ear to ear. 

From Lewis:

Smiling because you looked hot… bundled up from head to toe and covered in snow and I know you’re only out there because you love me.

What do you do for your significant other that you would never do on your own just ‘cuz you love them?

They called me Darth Vader

They called me Darth Vader

Cold and snowy

Cold and snowy

How To Put Your Woman In Her Place

February 4, 2014

Some men really know how to put women in their place.

Model Husband

There comes a time in a relationship when the woman gets all frazzled and starts acting peculiar, often times treating her partner in a way that is not preferable to them. This is often the result of stress, feeling under appreciated or a certain monthly visitor. Regardless, this behavior is detrimental to a healthy, happy relationship, thus a man is often forced to put his woman in her place.

The process is actually quite easy, especially if you’re observant during the times when your woman has down time. My wife’s place happens to be a couch in the front room of our flat, a spacious area with a nice view and lots of light. She tends to lounge in here when she’s reading or watching shows on her iPad, so it’s definitely the location in our house where she feels the most comfortable. Some women, however have a wide variety…

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Winner, Thermador Kitchen of the Year!

January 26, 2014

From Janelle:

Positive thinking can’t hurt anyone can it?

Our kitchen designer, Dana Jones, entered our kitchen in the Thermador Kitchen Design Challenge today for kitchen designs completed during 2012 and 2013.  Winners to be announced on June 30, 2014.

Wish us luck!

From Lewis:

Now what to do with the prize winnings. Maybe a yacht, plane…damn we still have construction bills to pay.  Easy come, easy go.



Make Hay While the Sun Shines

January 5, 2014

From Janelle:

Never one to “Let Grass Grow Under Our Feet” as my parents say we made up for our kitchenless year by cramming as many events as possible into the last quarter.   Saturday December 3:00 or 4:00 AM bedtimes resulted in sleepy Sunday mornings crescending in a caffeine induced haze to gear up for another Sunday evening soiree and countless weeknight activities.  Our house was a bevy of guests, cooking and utilizing my extensive serveware collection not only to show Lewis that my Dish Fettish really does come in handy but because each piece is a visit to a past memory.

Lewis has made me promise no entertaining for a while which won’t be hard as Work Crunchtime began January 2.  “Make Hay While the Sun Shines” as the saying goes and with gusto we did as my everyday motto “Gotta Pay to Play” kept both work and play motivation alive in December but it is “Nose to the Grindstone” time and soon I will be singing my annual First Quarter Motto, “All Work and No Play Make Janelle a Dull Girl’.

Happy New Year!!

From Lewis:

Unfortunately I had to go to work on one of those Sunday mornings but luckily it wasn’t a 3:00 AM night.  Hopefully Janelle doesn’t become too dull.

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